Well I can only speak for myself, but hopefully I'm one of your 10%. When I was a senior in HS, I decided to go to Miami University (Ohio) and of my close circle of friends, nobody else was going, or couldn't get in. Toward the end of my senior year, I was traveling to a hockey tournament with some teammates and my truck died on the side of the interstate. This was in 1997, so cell phones were a luxury, but thankfully one guy had his parents' phone for the weekend. I called my dad, and let him know what happened. Turns out, he had an old fraternity brother in the town we were closest to, and he made sure my truck was secured and towed as soon as we were able to catch a ride with our assistant coach who was a few hours behind us. After the tourney, I was dropped off at my truck and my dad came down to tow it back home, and we had lunch with his old "frat bro". It was amazing to me to see them pick up like noting had changed in literally 25 years... especially since my dad is not the most social person in the world. Seeing that, and knowing none of my good HS friends would be at school with me, I decided I wanted to rush a frat. I wanted that sort of friendship in the future. So I did. I joined what would be considered an "elite fraternity" on my campus, an "alpha chapter" (meaning the whole fraternity started at that campus, and thoroughly enjoyed it for awhile. Having our national HQ in town meant we took our roles as ambassadors of the house very seriously and while we partied hard, it was never racist, date-rapey, or anything like that. However, my school was a very white, rich, trust fund type school and the Greek system reflected that. I deactivated after my junior year because I realized I already had the friendships I desired, and my BEST friends weren't Greek. Also, because my sister started college at the same time, my folks told me that I'd have to pay the dues if I wanted to stay in the house. I couldn't afford it, so I moved to an apartment and had further adventures my last 2 years. But to this day, I still keep in touch with many of the brothers. I consider them lifelong friends and several have reached out to me when I've fallen on hard times for career and emotional support. That may be something that is not exclusive to the Greek system, but it's nice to have people in your corner when you need them. Point of the story is that not everyone is a social climbing douchebag, not everyone joins just for the cliche scene, and there's a lot more to it than the stereotypes presented. I like to think there a lot more people in the system like me than otherwise.