Stigma and stereotyping.

Maybe it's not something I hate about the act of sex, but the societal standards surrounding sex. Like, society says that, if you're a guy, you should top and be dominant, you should do all the hard work. And if you're a girl, you should bottom and be submissive, you should just sit there, be as arousing as possible to the guy, and that's it.

Straight guys are told they're "gay" or "weak" or "pussies" if they like to be dominated. Gay guys who bottom are told they're "feminine" or "girly", as if being a woman is an insult. It's not. But additionally, bottoming, wanting to be dominated as guy, etc. isn't a bad thing. It's okay to like or want those things.

Similar for girls. Dominant girls are told they have to top all the time, or are "dominatrixes", or they must constantly be into BDSM. Like, no, maybe she just wants to fucking be on top every once and a while? Maybe she wants to switch between roles? Just because she wants to dominate someone doesn't mean she's a leather-bound, whip-bearing bad bitch all the time in bed.

So, rant done. Just... If you want to fuck or be fucked, then go for it. If you want to get dicked down - by a man or a woman (or neither) - that's fine. Nothing wrong with that. Sex is supposed to be fun, supposed to be a getaway and an enjoyable thing. If you're forced to comply to a stereotype that you don't want to sign on to, then how the hell is it fun?