3. What doesn't actually exist?

What doesn't actually exist?

I disagree. I would say it exists, but it is not the thing people often identify as the friendzone. Let's say there are two people: Person A and Person B, and suppose Person A is attracted to Person B, but Person B is not attracted to Person A.

  • If they are friends, and Person B treats Person A normally as a friend, never hinting at something more than friendship, then that is not the friendzone, even if Person A would like more than friendship (as opposed to just being passively attracted).

  • However, if Person B is aware that Person A wants more than friendship, and Person B takes advantage of this (e.g., by flirting with Person A to get Person A to do favors in hopes that some relationship my occur) then that to me is the friendzone. However, it's actually not really a friendship.

A lot of what I read here from people saying they are in the friendzone is just guys attracted to female friends who have never given an indication that they are interested and just want normal friendship. Frequently it's "nice" guys being disrespectful of their female friends because they think their attraction entitles them to something beyond friendship.

The actual friendzone arises from a toxic mixture of Person A engaging in wishful thinking and Person B not treating Person A as an actual friend.

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