I had a friend who had one of those talks with me, they felt that our friendship was one sided and I wasn't putting enough effort in.

The thing is that we were very different people, he would catch up with every friend at least once a week. I would catch up with one person maybe once a month. From his perspective, I was not catching up with him every week like he expected so I was a bad friend. From my perspective, I only saw one person a month and it was always that same guy, so he was my closest friend.

But as soon as he started saying things like how I was a bad friend, or how he wanted to sit down and talk about why I was a bad friend. That just made me want to avoid him. I don't want to spend my free time with negativity or being told i'm a bad person.

He eventually started testing our friendship by not inviting me to things, so that I would initiate contact etc. But I got tired of always having th friendship questioned and tested. There was a point where it was no longer fun to hang out with him because he always made me feel like I was being tested/judged.