but nobody seems to talk about the way women also reinforce toxic masculinity and gender roles.

You're allowed to talk about them, but more often than not it's other men who call you idk incel or misogynistic if you point out men out-earn their female partners 3 times as often even though in the same age group both men and women make similar amounts of money. Meanwhile women will say it's men being insecure, which is true but happens less often. Who the fuck in the current economy would say no to a partner who likes you and makes more money?

It's a very confusing time for men and our identities. Where do we go from here?

Become drones, as in drones of a bee colony.