I sleep in the guest room because wife tells me she doesn't want to have sex anymore. If I don't sleep in my bed, its a massive punishment to her. I lay in bed until 3am and can't sleep. All I can do is think. I never have insomnia. More than one time I jumped out of bed to go confront her. The 4th time I went upstairs and grabbed her phone. I needed to verify there wasn't anything happening. She woke up and asked why I took her phone, I just went downstairs and ignored her. I opened my laptop to record her in case she tried anything stupid. I sat calmly and waited for her.
I told her she fucked up and had to leave the house for her behavior. She said she didn't know what she did. I told her she was a slut who would jump on another cock if the right cock was available and cheated on me with our friend emotionally. I told her she had to cut off all contact with him. I was pretty harsh and went over the top a little but, but I was pretty tilted. I was calm in my demeanor but I said everything with exacting ferocity and she was submissive. She told me she would do anything and just didn't want to leave. I told her to leave and go stay with her mom or go to Rons house. She refused and cried and said she would do anything. We ended up talking for hours, fucked and went to bed.
At this point, I am willing to give her a pass. She doesn't need to quit her job or do anything drastic yet, but she is on probation. A few weeks ago they stopped talking, and she told Ron that I am butt hurt because I think they are being inappropriate. Ron and I have discussed this together and I told him I don't mind if she uses him as an emotional tampon because he doesn't get to fuck her. She is just using him for emotional dumping and he gets nothing in return. He didn't like that one bit and stopped being her support system immediately. He asked if I thought he had sex with his wife and I laughed at him and said "Ron, look at me. You will never fuck my wife and that is the least of my concerns."
Ron and I haven't spoken since the night he blew me off for fights. Its actually very common because he is a drunk captain and rarely does what he says. I don't plan to discuss my relationship with my wife ever again and wife has been trained to say "everything is great" to anyone who asks. We are doing well, and don't need other mother fuckers meddling in our marriage anymore. I am done with everyone, its just her and I know. I can control that situation with relative ease if I pay attention and stay at the helm like a good captain. I am committed to that. Wife said she just wanted me to fight for her. This was all a game to get me jealous and I wasn't so it didn't work until recently when I got pissed. Ron actually did me a solid because I had to nut up and do something. It turned her on big time when she realized I was willing to burn bridges and ruin relationships to have her.
Here is the question: Do I need to cut off all contact with Ron and move to another BJJ school? Did he actually do anything wrong or was he just helping a woman who was crying for help? He never fucked her. The fallout would be catastrophic for his business and he doesn't shit where he eats and never has. He kicks out students and teachers who do and despises them as weak men. I never told them not to hang out, but instead encouraged it. I am the only one to blame here and am 100% responsible. I have owned that and plan to be more careful with any relationships my wife has in the future. Its my job to protect her, not some fat fuck has-been. I am owning that responsibility too. I didn't realize we were both feeding information to the enemy. I was friends with agent smith himself and didn't even know it. She admits that she was being treasonous and fed information to the enemy, but not that she had an emotional affair. I am fine with that admission of guilt as long as it doesn't continue.
I am fine with being friends with Ron because I can control the situation. He is still very weak, and poses little threat to me as long as wifey doesn't do anything stupid. I am not planning to mate guard her and I will give her some rope to either swing or hang. We have 3 beautiful kids and a great life, she doesn't want to fuck that up and neither do I. I probably won't be inviting him over the house for a long time, if ever again. I plan to train at his school because I want a black belt from him. He will give me one at some point even if he doesn't like me because its a good political move. He is a giant pussy but he has something I want. His school is by FAR the best around and I would prefer to get my belt from an "ivy league" school instead of some other bush league community college.