Commenting just to help people. This helped me I was pretty bad.
1 I read a lot about breakups but only for a few days. Most articles lifted my spirits and self esteem. If you're a man askmen has amazing articles
2) I looked up the science. From there I discovered what chemicals make me feel well and how to make my body release them with specific food . The articles don't lie I can vouch, for this for those who have no appetite I noticed eating hand foods like sandwiches and just taking one bite and chewing it until I couldn't chew it anymore and then just swallowing it and repeating that helped me get some food in my system.
3) going back to the science I started taking aspirin which helped and then noticed it was too much and risky only use it for the worst days when all else fails (which might be every day for a while that was my case)
4) if you go back to the science you'll see a way to stimulate some of the chemicals is with closeness it doesn't have to be your loved one if you have resources use them be hugged by family members just because. You don't have to tell everyone everything
5) stop talking about it, you will still think but stop talking to others about it it makes you feel worse (see science)
6) exercise (see science)
8) it helped me to look at a picture I didn't like of her having fun like she didn't care. It didn't make me miss her it made me feel like an idiot. That helped me find some self esteem
9) if you can have close friends who love you near by reach out, that helped me go out and pretend you're better until you're not pretending. You'll be surprise at random times you might go minutes without memories.
10) I skipped 7
11) I hope that made you laugh.
12)Fix yourself like if you were going out take care of yourself
13) If you do your own research you will see everything I said in different articles I just used all of it to "hack" my brain into feeling better and it worked. I still remember she exists and I miss her sometimes because she was a giant part of my life but I don't want to die anymore.
Does anyone want me to go into specifics?