Not to derail or hijack, but. If anything, I've grown and learnt so much from lurking and posting in the past 6 months (about relationships or my SO) than I've honestly learnt from actual life in the same 6 months.

Everything you read on the internets/Reddit can be taken with a proverbial grain of salt. It's quite literally what you actually do with the advice that's most important! Always pause, and ask yourself "Is this right or relevant to my particular situation?" And/or, "Can I LEARN FROM the advice, or should I USE the advice?"

Just because you saw a quote, or quip, or rant, in your favourite social media platform that connected with you, don't make it right or wrong. Just means it's literally food for thought that may help you reach an epiphany you may never have without it.

eg; I realise I'm predominantly the one that physically or verbally puts more communicative effort into my relationship than my SO. Doesn't mean I should leave her. Just means I need to figure out how to encourage her to mutually meet me so I don't feel that way anymore. Most Reddit responses from experience would barrage me to dump her. But, I don't understand. Why "dump" someone you're viscerally in love with? Doesn't it make sense to communicate your insecurities or inner thoughts before taking that path?