My friends/next door neighbours (they are a couple). They are older to me and as I was living away from home for the first time, I started to depend on them a lot whenever I would feel lonely and they would cook me meals and spend time with me. Slowly I started feeling that they were getting involved way too much in my life, from giving me suggestions about what to eat, when to eat, what to wear, how to deal with people, and telling me how I don't have a good taste in clothes, how I am unable to get used to doing work on my own (I'm a researcher) and even about the timings of my boyfriend's visits to my house.

When I actually needed them a couple of times they didn't go the extra mile to help me, the way I'd have done if i were in their place. Once they even put me down when I was feeling really low and decided to share my feelings of cluelessness with them. Maybe they were going through difficult times themselves, and so I should not judge them. It was also partly my fault as I opened my life for them to enter and completely judge me, but once I realised that they didn't really care about me, but were getting their ego massaged by feeling that they were better than me and could guide me, i stopped caring for them. I limited my interaction with them and don't let my vulnerability show around them.

It was a good happening, because it made me realise that the only person I can trust in the world is my own self and when all is said and done, I have to live my own life and go through my own challenges - no one will do that for me. It has made me a much stronger and self reliant person.