This is the most relevant point in my opinion.

When someone says "he's in charge of the relationship" then a lot of people identify that as a good opportunity to engage emotional overdrive.

I don't think I spent a whole lot of time as a "bad boyfriend" (though really, who would?), and I've never had a boyfriend, so it is difficult for my to understand clearly what precipitates the idea that allowing a man to decide anything that might affect them is tantamount to slavery. That is simply something I do not understand because I have no relevant experience. Regardless of my inability to sympathize, I recognize that it is an overwhelmingly popular view.

The vast majority of all decisions affecting two individuals sharing a relationship are not glorious high-power affairs which double as a convenient means of dominating one's partner.

It is impossible to become the slave of a person whom you can choose at any time to simply dissociate yourself from. You always have a choice. What you do not have is the burden of carefully evaluating all options in order to avoid hurting both yourself and the ones you love.

My wife is welcome to all the responsibility she desires. She could have it all for all I care. I have no love for such burdens. I detest them.

There was a time when I was "in charge " of everything. She was struggling with anxiety and that arrangement meant that she need only obsessively struggle with one question; did she still trust me to take care of her?

People are generally not very hesitant to inform another that they chose poorly once it becomes evident that a decision they made was incorrect. Held responsibility is not an asset. Uncertainty renders every choice made with less than perfect information a potential liability, and that weight can be overwhelming.

People should live their lives as they choose, and the best relationships are a partnership of equals. Control is a burden, and responsibility does not enhance freedom. Quite the opposite really.

Sure, some guys want to control women and subjugate them. Others though are willing to carry additional weight simply because they adore you, and would prefer to spare you those burdens whenever possible.

As long as one is free to simply leave and is at liberty to renegotiate terms whenever they see fit, they can not be subjugated or enslaved.