Welcome, /u/peabodymanuever, I think that you will find exmo a very welcoming place. The tone of individual threads and posts can be harsh on occasion (I'm guilty of this), but the important thing about the sub overall is that there are countless posters that are empathetic and compassionate people who genuinely want to help those in a faith crisis or transition. You will frequently see threads from teenagers who are trapped in homes with uber-TBM parents, marriages on the brink, boyfriends/girlfriends seeking advice about their TBM significant other, or just those who aren't quite sure where they fit in the world (people such as yourself, it seems).

Exmo posters will offer advice based upon experience, empathy, understanding, and unconditional support. You will find endless humor. You will find incredibly well sourced information about church history, doctrine, protocols, etc. You will find commentary on talks, culture, and experiences with church members. The beauty of exmo is that it is dynamic and makes no demands that people post a certain way, believe a certain way, or act a certain way.

I'm a smartass by nature, snark is my oxygen, cynicism my blood. I enjoy poking fun at the church as it has caused me a great deal of hurt over my lifetime. I've only been out for several months short of one year, so my anger is still real but subsiding. Despite my constant potshots at the church, I know that it will always be around my life because my entire extended family is LDS. I am still finding a way to make peace with it, and in a weird way exmo allows me to vent in non-destructive ways.

I hope you find exmo to be helpful in finding where you are in life, and if not, I wish you all the best.