I feel like you just called me a loser. To that I say - like fuck I am. I mean your post 100% applies to me. Except I make just under six figures. Fuck me right?

Except I don't consider myself a loser. My wife certainly doesn't consider me a loser. My little brother, who is an awesome and selfless firefighter and EMT, says I'm a fucking badass. And he's a badass. So that's gotta count for something right?

Look, people aren't going to understand you. Maybe you don't really understand yourself. In fact, I'd say that everybody on this planet could benefit from understanding themselves more. Know thyself and all that. So don't get down on yourself for not knowing yourself or anything. I'm just saying that you are at a certain point in your development now and there's no reason that you have to stop here. You don't have to feel like a loser forever.

You might be depressed or some shit and it's not necesarily easy to escape depression. It's definitely not easy to "overcome" ADHD. Trust me, I've tried. It does not reflect poorly on you that you struggle from biological factors beyond your control. You are not loser, even if you call yourself a loser. Calling yourself a loser doesn't make you one. It's just a stage. Like a circle of hell you have to go through as you make your way through the other side to emerge the hero.

But life isn't as neat and wrapped up as the old hero myth and every victory may seem to be followed up with another struggle. Maybe we're all Sisyphus, rolling the boulder up the hill only for it tumble into the next valley. Whatever. That's not an ADHD thing. My wife doesn't have ADHD and I wouldn't her trade her problems for my own. I guess that's just part of being alive. I'm just trying to say that everybody struggles just in different ways.

I'm no better than you. I want to emphasize that. I feel good today.I feel happy. I feel positive. Some days I just feel like a loser. When it's bleak, it seems like it will always be bleak, and when it's sunny, it seems like it will never stop shining. That's just the way I'm wired. So I probably shouldn't get too attached to this feeling because it is fleeting.

But since you're not dead, there's no reason you have to settle for things how they are now. I'm not saying you should be happy with your life situation. Maybe you're fat and have no friends, or you killed a guy, I don't know. And obviously you can't change the past. But right now if you are alive then you have the potential to change. You can change your body, you can change your lifestyle, you can make or unmake friends. You can go back to school, you can quit your job and become a photographer, I don't know what gets your heart going but whatever it is, you can do it. You can work towards it.

You can, at very least, refuse to be a loser. Fuck the past. Take the good things from it and leave the rest to die. It might be hard but it's not impossible. Start with whatever tiny grain of sand you can muster and keep piling them on until you have enough to build a castle.