Hmmm...well there's only ever been...I guess if we count my third-grade crush, 4 people I ever "felt" very attracted to, and not just physically regardless of whether there was sex involved. The very last one was like two years ago, but I honestly don't know what made it "work" because unlike the other people I was involved with, there was very little substance to form a connection, though I was always very much desiring more substance I never got it, which I later learned was partly a gratitude complex on my end.

As for the others, well there was just more consistent interaction. Classroom(3rd grade) meant daily interaction. Later another girl we sat next to each other on a bus for about a whole month in addition to other shared activities and even smoking weed together several times. Another girl I was co-worker/teacher, again, daily-to-yearly interaction. The build-up is just unavoidable.

At this point in life, looking back, comparing myself to my friends(what I "know" about them), I think I was more emotionally spoiled growing up then most people and less likely to jump fully into things, leading a to pro-longed state of..idk, the mental-foreplay stage, meaning there was a lot more getting-to-know-eachother before jumping into sex. With this last girl the sex came quite quickly(in one sense) and then, although we did interact besides that, the rest fo the interactions were far a few between, which I was complacent with because I feel that's the girl's respected decision to decide how fast/slow something goes so that she can feel happiest.

Idk...as long as there is commonality, which doesn't have to be capable of being expressed tangibly, with the added dimension of time, then attraction will develop...but idk, maybe not! ...Now that i think about it, there is probably another special ingredient, but I don't what that is! It's like with making a song or something. Yeah, there are ingredients, but then there is an x-factor.

I think talking is special