It's easier for me if he's comfortable with splitting the bill, so it's actually a major plus point for me, even if he's the one who arranged to meet. If not splitting the bill, at least I'll get desserts or the next meal? If he insists to pay for all our meals before nikkah, I'd be really really uncomfortable with that and would have a proper chat with him about it. I wholly appreciate the gesture of course but let's try not to get carried away with sentiment before we're legally bound to each other. Fully footing the bill after nikkah is 100x more romantic, thank you.
If you let a guy pay, he will get used to it and finally if the woman pays, he will no longer value her as he got it easy. The more picky is the woman the harder it will be for him to leave her.
Lol @ the mental gymnastics here. The more money the man forks out for a woman during courtship, the more he learns to value her...? Y'all men don't want gold-diggers but some of y'all really be out here talking like you gamified the amount of attraction you have to a woman based on how much financial maintenance she needs you to contribute to her... during courtship (read: talking beyond the meals here). I know men like this -- they think being loved means being treated like an ATM. I feel sorry for them.