I'm just trying to get some opinions on what others would do in my situation, I think you are correct but attacking someone asking for advice is a really shitty way of sharing your view. I do think I'm a feminist and I'm not ''going around telling people that his behaviour is none of my business'' as this is only something I found out about yesterday and I've already called him out on it and as you can see from the post I am clearly considering other further options too. Just because I didn't instantly cut a long-time friend out of my life after hearing a second hand account of something bad that he did doesn't mean I don't think it's bad, it means I'm taking time to think about it properly because that's what adults do, acting quickly and impulsively rarely beneficial.