Deep down, at the core of their hearts, it's good to know that..

All men are dicks

In some way or another, everyone is a dick, even women, but we do so well in hiding it, that we deem ourselves not. It's not that we're not nice, it's not that we're not caring, it's just that sometimes we want to care more for ourselves than others, I mean, we're individuals like that.

The part about this story is though, that probably life has slipped into routine, what you need is something like a nice few days off, a short break away with just the two of you, no computer, no kids, no cellphones even, just the two of you, to reconnect and re-discover each other's values, mostly on his side if I read this correctly

Breaking out of the routine is pretty much like breaking out of your comfort zone, you see things anew again, in a different perspective, he needs that, he needs to see what he has been neglecting for the past time, so that he can re-adjust himself into showing more that he cares for you.

Probably he really does, but in a routine, it's really hard to see anything, life just... 'happens', there's no new things to stimulate your mind, there's no new experiences to teach you, even the fights get the same, at some point, you will have to use incredibly drastic measures to even get him to do the dishes.

So personally I think it would be nice to take a break from your routine, completely, do something you've never done before, go bungee jumping, skydiving, or something easy like a nice date to the park followed by looking around in a strange city, just break away and let him take that new breath of life again.

Of course, I could be completely wrong, but hey, I'm just a stranger from the internet, and here's my two cents, please don't kill me if I'm wrong

Whatever the case, I wish you incredible strength for this, and a dash of good luck