My brother had his "best friend" and his girl live with us because they were hard on times. At first, things were cool. We were all in respectful relationships and it was okay. I take care of my grandma, so that fills my time up pretty well. Well, my brother never set boundaries at all. At all. My brother's girlfriend ends up getting close with his best friend's girl and even though I had my own boyfriend (and separate friends), I felt as if best friend's girl picked bro's girl over me. It was very clear, sending her messages, like SO many messages a day while my own was just empty.
Walked in to have my bro call me into his room. His best friend's girl had been apparently messaging bro's girl behind my brother's back and saying a bunch of terrible stuff about him all because bro's girl felt the need to vent (I know her better now and this situation was way too far.) Not only that, but best friend's girl told bro's girl that this other girl, whom my brother would NEVER EVER chase after, liked my brother. Us girls don't hear that normally, we hear "this girl wants to fuck my boyfriend." Not only this, but they all exercise regularly and best friend's girl tried to hook brother's girl up with brother and best friend's mutual friend at the gym. So that leaves my brother with who? Someone irrelevant.
Bro's girl got it goin' on. She's clean, so gorgeous with long hair and domesticated as hell. She can cook. She works a bazillion hours. She was married before. She's so young and on her shit. Best friend's "wife," well, I watched her try to make tuna fish and best friend sent her back to the kitchen to drain the water out of the sandwich because she didn't drain it out the can. Didn't work until she decided my grandma was too hard of a job. Married too fucking young. Embarrassing.
My bro told me this story, got some other details from brother's girl and when I listened to best friend's girl's story, it sounded like she was lying and keeping stuff. I already felt like I couldn't trust them at all and this sloppy shit just proved it. Best friend's girl was TOTALLY preying on brother's girl insecurities and being manipulative. Brother's girl snapped. Best friend and girl tried to act as if nobody's feelings were valid. Not only that, best friend was working and making $500 checks and I was paying the bills as usual.
Best friend's girl was also using my stuff while I wasn't there. It was like, "Oh can I use this? Can I use this?" And being the nice person I was, thinking they were really hard on times (my brother told me otherwise after the fact), felt as if I was helping. Eventually my collection dwindled. Not only that, it was monkey see monkey do, so best friend borrows my brother's clothes, his girl borrows mine. Wtf. When I confronted her on this after they moved out (I hid certain shit at my boyfriend's house), she DENIED DENIED DENIED in such a gaslighting fashion because I wasn't there and she felt as if she could fool me. I know emotional abuse TOO well to be fucking fooled. And if they lied to you once, they'll lie again. She threw the fact that she changed my grandma while I was at work in my face, saying that she did it for me. As if that pays my grandma's rent back and the electric bill.
Eventually I fucking snapped because taking care of my grandma, dealing with drama that started, yelling at my brother because he brought them here and my money's being FUCKED by $400 electric bill. Rent free, just buy your own food and they're eating my food that I buy from the grocery store. In fact, when I was outside on the phone paying the bill, best friend's girl twirled her hair and bragged about a fake server's job she got in front of me. Lied on my brother, claimed he was flirting with the nurses that come for grandma, ETC--That's some telling shit.
Not only that, when we did speak, she would try to compete with me or really desperately relate to me. Ending up telling my brother all of this in a more cooler discussion. He knows what a good friend I can be...
Eventually, we distanced off. . My brother defended my attitude in my absence and best friend gave the money he owed me back to my brother. Which is just fucking bad taste.
They lived literally a 10 minute walk away, but the first time they left, we didn't even kick them out. They couldn't stand the elephant in the room they started. Ended up wasting a ton of money on a trailer with no running water in it. Eventually got a condo and the best friend comes back to my grandma's house bragging about his money and shit. Best friend's girl and I, well, I acted fake and told her everything was cool, she hit me up on fb like it was and I never responded. She said a lot of fucked up shit, including that she was gonna fight my brother's girlfriend over "deleted texts" and I'm thinking, "Okay but how do you even know her texts were deleted?" More messy shit. Not interested or impressed with her at all.
I really don't trust my brother's judgment anymore. I wished I had challenged this idea of his, but I had faith in him. We both learned a lesson.
tl;dr
don't open up to people, smiling faces hide motives
Always set boundaries
Cut anyone off who throws the shit they did for your family in your face if they sat on their ass for two months, didn't pay a dime to you, used your shit and tried to still be your "friend" after sabotaging your brother's relationship or something along those lines
Think very carefully about what you have to lose