Okay slow down, and take a deep breath.

You don't know me, and I don't know you, but allow me to somewhat relate. I'm a 23 year old guy who just moved to a small city out on my own. Previously I was living in a much larger city with a decent circle of friends, and a generally happy life.

Fast forward to these past few months and I am miserable. I can't seem to make any friends, I don't have a whole lot of energy outside of work, and I'm scared of the future. Much like you, I see so many people in my day to day that are out having fun, goofing off, out at the bars, all having a good time and being social. Meanwhile, I literally go to work, go to the gym, and then go to bed. Sure this is interspersed with time wasted on Netflix, tinkering around on my motorcycle, (a hobby I am quickly losing passion for with no friends to go riding with,) and also drinking a lot of alcohol to drown out the loneliness-which is rare for me, since I used to be so dedicated to fitness and staying healthy. Now I couldn't give a shit. I smoke cigarettes, eat unhealthily, and go whole weekends in a haze of bud light, and tv re-runs because i'm too lethargic and apathetic to do any better.

But ya know what, I had an epiphany tonight. I originally came on here to read some posts and wallow in my own depression for a bit, but I stumbled upon the r/nonzero subreddit and read the top post, and it spoke to me a bit. Maybe more than a bit.

Now I also don't know if your looking for any advice, or direction, or specific feedback but I'm just going to throw this out there. I'm going to take some baby steps, and I think you should too. This must be the most cliche advice in the world but fuck it I've got nothing else going on, I'm gonna give it a shot. Basically If I'm going to make some friends, I need to first work on myself. I'm going to finally follow all of the bullshit cookie cutter advice on here, and then go and get me some friends.

What we both need to realize is that it is 2 thousand fucking sixteen, and there is no reason any person should be lonely. We have the goddamn internet. Literally instant access to millions of people/ideas/activities/resources worldwide. I'm going to stop wallowing like a slug, and make something of myself. I'm going to finally get back into shape, read some books, and make some friends.

Now here is where you come in.

I'd really like someone to challenge myself with, to keep me accountable. So if you'd like, I could keep you posted with what I'm doing on a somewhat regular basis. Nothing serious, or time-consuming just an occasional message to let you know a productive activity, something that worked for me, or my thoughts in general. Sort of like a journal buddy (as lame as that sounds.) It may provide you with some ideas to copy for yourself, or heck even just some mild entertainment to keep you distracted. Either way, I'm gonna do it.

So if your interested, let me know. If not, I understand, just know that somewhere out there, there is someone with similar feelings who is about to tell these emotions they can go right ahead on and fuck themselves.