I suspect that, as a family, you're not eating nearly as healthy as you think you are. You're probably eating way too much food containing way too much sugar. It's super easy to do if you're not very diligent about your diet for a while, because it's what most adults in the US grew up on.
I sympathize. I've been overweight for as long as I can remember and diet is something I struggled with my entire adult life. I feel like I've only recently started getting it right..... and I probably wouldn't have managed that without some food allergies cropping up.
Here are some thoughts: