That’s not what I’m saying at all. I would never expect them to make me a priority over their children. My point is that years into parenthood (not a new parent), it is selfish for someone who is a parent to rely on their friend constantly when they want to bitch about their kids/their partner, vent about how hard being a parent is, how hard life is etc., without ever providing the same to their friend. Friendship goes two ways, and just because someone may feel their life is harder, does not mean they shouldn’t even offer support to the other person who always listens to them. That’s not how any relationship works. At a certain point someone is going to walk away if they only give in a friendship, and never get anything in return.