It’s the importance of the event. When you agree to be a groomsman or bridesmaid it’s because you are a significant part of that party, a close friend and wanted to be part of the whole experience. Accepting is accepting just that. It’s unfortunate that the party date hadn’t been set but now it has. Her attendance of his mates weddings are irrelevant, and comes across point scoring. I don’t even understand her reluctance.

I wonder how she would feel if her best friend was getting married, she was bridesmaid and he told her you are not going to her hen do because my mate you’ve never met, is getting married. To refuse him being apart of those memories forever and everytime the party is mentioned he had no part in part in it. It is just cruel. Now if it was a family members funeral where she needed support, that would be different.