Almost lost my husband for choosing weed over him

I can almost relate to your addiction feeling. Difference being it affected my work ethic and sleeping. I told myself i needed to slow down and do the twice a week thing and that never worked either. I really don't want to give it up because of the benefits I get from it. But I know too much is no good.

I have slowed down and it wasn't easy at first. But I took some steps to help. Hopefully they work for you.

I tend to build up a tolerance quickly and that led to me seeking out more potent stuff. Eventually i built up a tolerance to even the strong stuff. Any stronger and I feel like I might become a burnout or mentally slower.

So here goes. 1st I made rules since I'm not fully quitting. One being I'd smoke in a group setting but never more than once a week. And only if offered.

2nd I let my stuff run out and threw out any left overs i could scrape up together. Cleaned everything too so I don't tease myself.

3rd I got to exercising, which once you get a good sweat going will help in feeling more positive about not smoking. Also it helps if you're tired at night and sleep earlier.

4th the feeling you get when you first started smoking is way better than when you've been doing it for a while. I liked that first few months of doing it. Everything from music, focus, ideas and sex was amazing. It all dwindled over time. I use this as motivation to slow down. I wanted that feeling again and so I'm not getting back into it until I'm done my detox.

I tell myself when i do it again in a few months to not overdo it. And really i don't know how I'm going to maintain that. So only on weekends is the only rule i came up with. I'm sticking with 4 to 5 days at the gym directly from work rule which helps a lot and overall just makes me better.

Ultimately quitting is the best route. But if you're like me that's not happening soon. So for now the best option is to occupy your time with other events, don't buy any, stay away from those who smoke regularly and detox. Also look into withdrawal systoms. They exist.

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