Was anyone else spiritually abused by an Nparent? How have you processed and moved on from this abuse? What is your take on your own spirituality now?

In this case I mean a Narcissist Parent who uses religion and parental authority to manipulate, control, make threats, punish, isolate, and violate the spiritual core and identity of their children.

Some hypothetical examples: If you do _________ you will go to hell, and you will spend eternity suffering the consequence of that decision.

If you do ________ you will be cut out of the family/church and You will be chastised (harassed) until you repent and beg for forgiveness.

You must publicly repent for ________.

We will never speak to you again if you do _______ because God does not approve of ________.

God told me to ____________ (do something controlling).

Personal examples: "If you are not for me then you are against me!" -my Nmom for disagreeing with her

"FUCKING JUDAS!!! FUCKING JUDAS!!!" Nmom's reaction to me having a nice conversation on the phone with her sister, my aunt (whom she loathes).

Nmom "casting demons out" of my 10 or 11 years old brother (who had ADHD) alone with him at night in an isolated location by screaming prayers "in tongues" and "laying hands" on him, and basically scaring the shit out of him where he became afraid of the dark into his late teens.

Nmom erupted in anger at me for putting headphones in my ears to tune her out while she sang hymns in opera style at the top of her lungs while we are alone together in a small chapel. Then she demanded that I leave with her, and had a public meltdown in the church parking lot when I refused to leave with her.

N parent leaving churches and enforcing no contact with church members for not having high enough religious standards and for fear that she was losing control of her family.

I hope that helps!

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