I wrote a response assuming this was an in-person conversation, but I realise that it is now in text. Most of it doesn’t apply, and if possible you shouldn’t talk in converse (except to confirm facts). Conversation is about bonding, and your body doesn’t release the proper bonding chemicals while staring at your phone.

This isn't true, and anyone who has any experience talking with people know it. Of course men and women, both think and communicate differently. You are probably of the age where there is a weird 'indoctrination' during college.

That aside, there are two possible issues, whether you are around crazy people (which means run), or you don't know the normal differences (which means adapt). For that you simply need more experience. Try to find opportunities where you can practice conversation with little reputation damage. For example if you are in college studying commerce, join the art/music/interest clubs. If you are studying arts, join the business/entrepreneur/association clubs.

As a creepy looking socially awkward aspie, the best advice i follow is to stay far far away.

Fix this as soon as possible. This is the most important part of social skills whether you are male or female, race, social economic background whatever. You have to look good. Looking good gives you confidence, and gives you more chances. This means that not only will you do better with people, others will care less when you mess up.

Start with these:

Clothes: get $100+ and go to a shop like H&M (or any high volume/low price 'trendy' store). Buy 5 sets of clothing that look good on you. Ask the sales assistant to help you.

Haircut: If you are one of the races where messy hair looks good, and you know how to do it well, style it, otherwise crew cut.

Hygiene: good hygiene is expected. I expect you to know this.

Posture: Straight back and open body language. Think of an alpha silverback gorrila defending his territory.

Fitness: Make sure you are a healthy weight. You should be going to the gym and lifting heavy weight. The people telling you that it is okay to be fat are doing it to 'thin' the competition.