Hey mate,

It's true that looks matter but, in all seriousness, vibe is way more important. Reverse the tables a bit and think about some of your life experiences. Certainly, you've met girls out there that are drop dead gorgeous yet you want nothing to do with. Yeah, they look good and that will bring you to the table but if they don't have anything going beyond that they aren't going to keep your attention. There are other girls that are attractive (though not in the top tier) yet have the social skills to really excite you and make you feel good in their presence. They are way more captivating than the lookers.

Men can do this to. In fact, women respond to it even more as love for them is more mental than physical (as compared to that of the average bloke).

From my own experiences, this has held up. I'm really not a looker. Yeah, I do competitive weightlifting so I have a good body but tbh it does way more for the attraction of my mental state than it does physically. I'm not huge and I keep myself between 10-15% bodyfat so it's not like I'm super ripped and toned. My face is average. My head is oddly shaped. My hair is light so it's contrast against my white skin is poor. I can't grow a full beard. My hair is receding (and I'm not even 25yet) so anything but a short cut/bald looks crappy (which then demands the facial hair that doesn't really work for me). I'm an inch short of 6', so basically average height. Yet, despite all of that, time and time again girls have told me that they love my 'energy' or my 'vibe'.

I did do things to help my appearance (which helps) though vibe is so much more important. I get a short buzz every week that keeps my hair short and doesn't accent my receding hair. I grew a goatee (the only beard I could really get some fullness to) and keep it trimmed nicely with the rest of my face clean shaven. I casual clothes that look sharp (trousers, button ups, etc) that fit. This gives me a clean cut look that accentuates my muscle mass and athletic form. The most important part here is that all of this meshes well with how I carry myself. I speak deliberately yet am not uptight. I sit and stand tall and radiate confidence. All in all, I worked with what I had to project the vibe that I live with inside.

TLDR: Your vibe is what matters. Do what you can with what you have to give yourself an appearance that 1) is respectable and 2) accentuates the vibe that you give off.