So, I want to preface this comment by saying I am not detrans. I hope it's okay for me to post this here. I was browsing a multitude of subreddits related to the trans topic, and after seeing your post, felt the need to comment because it pertains to my own experiences.

To make a long and complicated story short, I have an undiagnosed condition that caused me, AMAB, to undergo a puberty that one would associate with AFAB. As a result, I have breasts that are not merely of the typical gynecomastia sort, among other feminine features. This was hell to go through, especially surrounded by young individuals who have not yet developed empathy. My parents weren't too keen on it either, so I now find myself 28 and without any sense of why I am the way that I am.

What I do know is this; the significant others that I've been with thus far have been very understanding of my condition. Admittedly, I haven't been with many folks, but I have always expressed a preference in keeping my shirt on, I'm honest with them as to why, and they have treated me no differently thereafter. How people would react if I took said shirt off or showed my body in full is something I have, unfortunately, not yet broached.

As you said, there is always much to learn about what it means to be ourselves, and I think that the learning process will never stop, only get better as we grow with knowledge. You might encounter some lame people when it comes to all this, I know I have, but I also know you'll encounter people that will surprise you in the best possible way. I have always gone in expecting the worst in dating as a result of how I was treated over my condition in my youth, but time and time again my anxious notions haven't reflected reality.

I know our situations are different, but I hope there is enough overlap that this might be useful in some way. Suffice it to say, for me, it affects my dating life drastically but I am still able to date nonetheless. Sorry for much the text, and sorry if I'm intruding here.