Called it quits at almost 9 years. They were too busy promising a life they knew I wanted rather than stopping still long enough to make it. Final straw came when I received a very long and detailed email from someone who had been in a two year relationship and even had an apartment with my partner during our relationship. Turns out they weren’t working 55 hours a week after all. They laid out the mental, emotional, and financial abuse they’d suffered at the hands of my partner and it woke me up to the fact my life had been identical to what they’d gone through, I’d just been the one to stick around. Sent me headfirst into a mental breakdown, and through therapy I realised what I’d gone through. I was too young and naive to understand their tactics.