So this post is making me think long and hard about the situation. I don't want to deny my brother the opportunity to take on the family farm and fulfil my fathers wish, nor do I want my mother to be short changed by having to remain fair and giving each of us the same amount.

My main issue is fairness. It was one of my father's traits and I'd like to see it upheld. In my mind, and my sisters, only one of 3 siblings receiving inheritance early is unfair on the other 2. I'm not asking for early inheritance, but would I accept it if offered? Yes, of course. I could use it to pursue my own interests instead of working for someone else. But the point is moot because only my brother is being offered the opportunity.

As for the "family farm", it isn't that to my sister or I. It was our father's farm and then it will be our brothers. I was only on the farm for 5 years so the only connection I feel to it is that it was my fathers. Everyone romanticises them and they make for great television, but the truth, learnt through my own experiences within our family and numerous neighbours, is that they just cause arguments and fracture families, like I want to avoid in this case.

My father asked me years ago if I was interested in remaining on the farm and he would have then bought neighbouring properties for my brother and I. No idea what his plans for my sister were. In any case, I declined. My decision probably threw a curveball to his plans of creating a true family operation over multiple properties, but here we are.

At this point I don't know what to do. Most of you are making me feel like shit. All I want is fairness. Is it fair for me to deny my brother an early chance to buy the farm? Is it fair to my sister and I that we have to wait for the unpleasantness of my mother dying? I don't want my mother to die, sooner or later.