But the man is the one "paying the emotional toll" when things are not as good as they should be, because again, that is a burden that falls on him.

And while you bring it up (in the same breath as telling me to stay on topic), I don't really believe that much of the housework falls on women... It's not the 1930s where a man comes home from work to a hot meal and then kicks his feet up while the woman cleans the dishes, does his laundry, irons his clothes, shines his shoes, and raises the kids while the man sips a bourbon and smokes a cigar. Every man I know takes an active role in each one of those tasks- helping to make dinner, helping with the dishes, doing his laundry and being every bit as active in raising the children. But then there is a whole list of "man chores" that most women take no part in, changing the oil on the cars, cleaning the rotten leaves from the gutters, mowing the lawn, weed eating the fence line etc.

But okay, back to emotional labor. As per the author -

Acknowledge your thirsty posturing, $50. Pretend to find you fascinating, $100. Soothe your ego so you don’t get angry, $150. Smile hollowly while you make a worse version of their joke, $200. Explain 101-level feminism to you like you’re five years old, $300. Listen to your rant about “bitches,” $infinity.

There's a male equivalent for each one of these. In some there is a direct mirror image, lol.

Acknowledge your passive aggressive comments about your bad day even though you won't just say you've had a bad day, $50. Pretend to find you fascinating, $100. Soothe your ego so you don’t get angry, $150. Smile hollowly while you make a worse version of their joke, $200. Explain why you should find a new circle of friends because you always seem to be complaining about how catty your current friends are, $300. Listen to your rant about “bitches,” $infinity.

We both do a lot of the same shit, it seems to me.