I am a socially anxious and insecure woman. For a long time I thought I would never be kissed/have sex/be liked/be wanted. Yes, I agree that we are "allowed" to be insecure. I think some guys even find it cute when I'm nervous around them (not nervous because I like them, just nervous) (ick). My insecurity is valid, even if I have sex.. Women can be insecure. Sorry about that yelling lady though.. It is very unfortunate that (some) people see insecurity in men as pathetic. I think many know that it is normal though. Knowing that I am fuckable doesn't make me feel confident 24/7. Not denying that initial sexual validation a few years ago didn't feel good. @ guy who said we need to fuck off with our complaints.. no. Men wanting you sexually is pretty empty once you are used to it. I realise that before you have sex or while you think it will never happen, you just WANT IT. But some sex is bad. Not all sex makes you feel good, happy, wanted or valued. I am anticipating downvotes : P