Gamer bf

he also said he feels like I use him as an source of entertainment....? Isint that also the point of friendships/relationships? To interact and entertain... If you aren't having some form of mental stimulation from ur partners what's the point....

I can see you being annoyed at him gaming all day. But this sounds like co-dependency.

No. He is not your plaything. He is not your clown slave meant to bow down to your needs and make you laugh 24/7. It's not his job to make you happy. It's not his job to entertain you when you're bored. You're a grown woman. Entertain yourself. Get a hobby. You handled your needs alone before you moved in just fine. Stop depending on him to be your sole source of pleasure. It's selfish and unfair and no one deserves that kind of pressure.

If you honestly cannot see the point of having a partner even if they don't "mentally stimulate you" aka drop everything everytime you're bored, then you probably shouldn't be dating anyone.

Watch movies. Learn to cook or bake. Ask him to buy a video game you two can play together. Read books. Learn to cross-stitch. Go running or hiking. Buy some jigsaw puzzles. Learn to paint or make jewelry. Learn to sew. Make your own clothes. Take bubble baths. Do your nails. Do literally whatever you want to do. But give him the space he needs to enjoy a hobby that probably keeps him sane during this crazy time.

If you want more time with him, show him that you can handle entertaining yourself first. Then ask him to start participating. Maybe cook him dinner. Ask him to play a board game like scrabble with you. Don't bitch and moan and whine that he isn't paying attention to you. Just ask him for a compromise.

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