You might be surprised by how many women would feel relieved to know that you've gone through something and overcome. Women are compassionate creatures. I'm generalizing here, but I can't imagine many women reacting poorly to all you've been through, and if she DOES, then it's a clear indicator that she's not the one for you.

As someone with my own set of health issues, I feel for you and have honestly hoped to find someone who has also gone through their set of challenges (so we can better relate). You'll find her...and in the meantime, don't beat yourself up for any ways your body is different. We've all got our own set of variables, and you've got a lot to offer...including the added heart and resiliency from all you've been through.