Black woman with a string of white exes here. Long story short, I was adopted by white people and thought that I could be white until reality slapped me in the face. It was only about a year ago that I realized it just can't work. White guys are just racist. Now, many are great, well-meaning guys that talk about subconscious bias and all that shit. But it's hard to date someone who operates on such a different level of privilege from you. I don't know you two, or your relationship. But I think you should have some frank conversations with him, and soon. If those comments bother you, tell him - because we all know that those types of comments sometimes indicate a discomfort with your blackness. It was about six months before I started having those serious race convos with my last white boyfriend. I waited so long because I was worried he'd reveal himself to be just another white guy who was insecure and paranoid about being seen as racist. It was six months of my life, wasted. Do yourself a favor and have those uncomfortable conversations. It's possible that he'll show parts of himself that you don't want to see; be prepared.

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