If that makes me a shit mom then so be it, guess I;m a shit mom!

Nope! Not even a little. I had foster kids dropped on my doorstep. You want to know what no one ever asked us? Why aren't we breastfeeding. It didn't matter then because we didn't give birth. Why the fuck should it matter if you did happen to give birth? If it is that damned important, it should be important regardless. If we can disregard it in one instance, then it's fine. For everyone. For any reason. Even if that reason is because I don't want to. Even if your "I don't want to" is based in nothing more than a whim. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a straight up asshole.

I guess my question is, is it bad to have different kinds of formula just in case she doesnt like a certain kind or a certain kind fucks her stomach up?

Nope! But I would do a guess and check. Try a thing, if it goes well, keep doing it. If you notice gas or indigestion (at a rate higher than just normal gas and indigestion, and how the hell would you know what the normal rate is anyway?), switch. I mean, try something and if she's doing reasonably well on it and you're happy and she's happy, keep feeding her until she's not doing well. Then ask your doctor because you're going to have a million and one appointments.

I wouldn't worry about adult stomach issues too much in infancy. It could be genetic, or not. She might be lactose intolerant, but probably not. Go with whatever you feel like, see how it goes, and if it goes okay then don't sweat it. If you need to change, describe what's happening and ask your doctor at one of your nearly constant appointments.

I am trying to remember if we thought that hard with our last infant, and I honestly can't remember. I think we just put on a blindfold, pointed at a can of formula, and just kept with it. She ate it, she was fine, we didn't ask a lot of questions after that.

Please send me labor vibes, Im so ready to get this child out of my fucking ribs.

You have all my labor vibes. You also have a small, weird blessing from me. Because you know you don't want to breastfeed, you're going to get some static from some assholes. Be prepared. But take this from me to you; I love what you're doing. I love it. Formula is your right choice and having the strength to say that out loud and to own it makes you a giant. You are NOT a shit mom, unless you're going to call every adoptive and foster mom in the world a shit mom along side you. Or every mom who wants desperately to breastfeed and can't for whatever reason. You're doing you. You're already doing self-care as a mom. You're already balancing what you need against what the baby needs and making the best choice for the both of you. You're NAILING IT right now. Before she's even here, you're making amazing choices. You are literally breaking mom right now. You're being a kick-ass parent while still being a kick-ass you at the same time. Take your merit badge, wear it with pride, and start thinking about snappy comebacks for the haters.