Really gotta come up with a better term than "grooming" to loosely refer to social contagion and / or indoctrination of kids in schools on trans issues.

Grooming has never meant teachers telling kids subjects or convincing them of an identity they should have in secret and every time it's used to mean teachers pushing kids towards being trans without parental involvement it spreads the jacked up narrative that trans adults act inappropriately with children since grooming refers to bait and switching someone into a sexual relationship with a non-sexual pretext.

Imagine if you tried to use the term grooming to refer to teachers playing D&D with kids after school during the Satanic panic where parents were afraid kids playing D&D were participating in occult rituals. Not only would grooming be a terrible term to refer to what's happening, but it would immediately make the listener think there was something overtly sexual about the teachers' involvement with kids.

Teachers not informing parents when kids come out with a gender switch has nothing to do with a grooming relationship. Using the term "grooming" here makes it seem like the teachers were cultivating this secretive, inappropriate, sexual relationship with the kids to make them trans under the nose of the parents. It feeds into this "trans panic" of making parents afraid that teachers are "trans"ing their kids and that trans people are trying to assault their children.