The problem is I don't get any help with things like my laundry (I don't have much and I need it clean for work). The bedroom is so disgustingly messy that I literally can't walk to the bathroom at night without tripping over something. But yet if I were to say "honey, it would really benefit our relationship if, while I'm working to support us, you would take care of the house and laundry" I would be responded with "wow really mitch, I'm not your slave. we are equals and you can do shit too. don't treat me like a slave / under you".
Wow your girlfriend is a grade A cunt if she thinks favors = slavery. Or shes too fucking retarded to tell the difference. By some random chance, go look up the BPD checklist and see if it fits, an inability to see faults and the good sounds like her.
It doesn't matter how nicely I ask or suggest that she does something, it's always followed by some sort of attitude simply because I was the one who asked. No respect. Yet the money I bring home is "our money" and the tiny inheritance I'm getting from my late grandfather is also "our money".
NOW I AINT SAYIN SHE A GOLD DIGGA BUT SHE AINT MESSIN WITH NO BROKE NIGGAS! PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN ON THIS MAN. ITS YOUR MONEY, NOT OURS.
Which i would be TOTALLY fine with
I get giving your gf cash and paying for stuff but always keep your money to yourself, so many less fights and problems that way.
if I didn't have to be told to my face to fuck off every time I ask she clean the bedroom.
Seriously why do you tolerate this shit? I would have never given her the chance to behave like this, shed been kicked to the curb years ago. Get some self respect, then demand it from your girl or find a new one.
tl;dr: Wife flips shit if I ask her to do anything because I'm not her "master" I.e. she has no respect for me.
Oh god shes your wife, GG you lost. Divorce court will castrate you through your wallet. Seriously though, better to leave with some dignity than stay in a depressive marriage where you're denied some of the most fundamental parts of a healthy relationship.