This is me to a tee with my partner. Sometime I think when she starts meandering into different topics that she is doing it just to throw me off, which ends up with me getting more upset. I’m starting my meds soon and hoping it will help with this.

If I get confused or I can’t remember some example that is being used as evidence, I let her know. I’ll tell her I don’t have a clue what she’s taking about but want to explore it so there will be one I could remember. I’m showing her I’m willing to try and resolve the potential issue, and it’s not my fault that I can’t remember.

After my partner tells me her argument, I’ll try and explain it back to her, “so what you’re saying is…”. I usually get most of it wrong or even ALL of it wrong because I haven’t been able to pay attention. At this point we usually have a laugh and try again. If things remain heated or don’t seem to be going anywhere, I’ll ask to try again the next day.

Hope that helps and best of luck as I feel your frustration.