I hear stuff like this a lot - and it's good advice. But what do you do when the answer is "Yes"?
I'll never be on the cover of GQ, but I don't think I'm hideous. I care a lot about hygiene and go out of my way to be clean and fresh. I'm no fashion model but I do put effort and thought into my clothing. I don't work out, but I have a very physical outdoor job that keeps me healthy enough. I have a decent job, a nice little apartment, and I even have friends. My female friends in particular tell me I'm nice and funny as hell and would make a great boyfriend - though they themselves aren't interested in me. I go out with my friends a lot and do occasionally get dates but they are rare and never go anywhere - I often feel like an ATM for free meals. In fact just last month I went on a date with a very nice girl. I had a ton of fun and she appeared to as well and she even said as much. And yet I never heard from her again. I texted her a couple of times but never got a response again. I have no idea what happened and to be honest that date inspired this post as I've been feeling more hurt by being ghosted than I had expected to. I'm surprised at just how much it's been bothering me the past few weeks.
I don't live in a major city, but my town is large enough and has plenty of people to meet. I wouldn't say I have a "type" and am open to dating women of any shape, size, race, interests, career, etc - and I wouldn't say that I'm chasing women out of my league, so to speak. I do find that as I get older (mid-30's) there are fewer single women of my age, but I don't mind dating a little younger or older.
I've never had a long term girlfriend, and as I said dates are kind of rare for me, so I don't exactly have a lot of experience. But I do try. I'm not some bum living in his parent's basement who never goes outside and puts himself out there. I go out with friends frequently and do online dating as well. I ask women out and while I get far more "No's" than "Yes's" I am trying.
I guess this is all to say that I do follow advice and I do put in the work and I do think I'm a decent catch with a decent personality - but women don't seem to agree. So I have trouble wrapping my head around why I have such miserable luck with women. It would be one thing if I was frequently going on dates and hooking up and generally having a fulfilling dating life - but for me it just isn't happening. There's something wrong with me or with what I'm doing, but I can't seem to figure out what it is.
I am increasingly starting to believe that some people really aren't genuinely meant to ever find a partner.