I appreciate your reply, it is great, and would be great to do, but there's a lot more to the story and details that are obstacles for this. Instead, I think I'm going to have to let it go. In any case, he and his family battled the disease for about two years, and they lost, so they've received some sort of karma in and of itself, and he didn't change at all.

It appears that he actually may have caused the disease itself, because of his bitterness and anger, that persisted all the way with him, until his end.

The reasons for why I won't confront him are numerous.

One reason is that he has brain cancer, so it wouldn't be worth it, in fact, it would come off as the opposite and be detrimental, because firstly, it would be perceived as beating up on a guy with cancer, and secondly it would be almost as if mocking him and giving him a hard time.

Another reason is because every family member has either bought into the lies his saying so that they can look good, or so because he is a family member and will be supported for that reason.

In addition, while his family is messed up and abusive, they don't do that to everyone, maybe only 40% of people, so while there are people who are angry at them, it's not going to be supported by the family.

With this, is that confronting him, would be seen at this point, as a sign of treachery and betrayal, even though he had been the one doing it for over a decade. Even family members that he was mean to, are not going to confront him, because it would be something that would tarnish their reputation.

The only thing that grants some sort of solace, is that he's finally on the way out, and that's actually a silver lining in all of this, because he's not being called away, he's being banned from life for being such a sack of shit. He won't be around and abusive for another thirty or forty years, which would have been unpleasant and horrible. I know that sounds callous, but if you were to have interacted with him for a short amount of time, you'd know all about him and how fucked up he really was.

The fact that he went down taking money from his brothers and sisters, and their time, and getting in debt, and dragging it out instead of accepting that he was wrong and he was the cause of all his problems, is in and of itself, some sort of karmic justice. Like I said, he's not on the way out, he's being sent to hell.