I get ya. It's still seems like a lot though. Whoever you meet on a dating app, the first three dates are the same because you're just learning about each other from scratch. First date is always the longest and if there is mutual attraction, ends up in sex or heavy kissing. Second date is way more subdued and usually just a long conversation and more getting-to-know-eachother topics. By this point I usually lose interest because of other options, or because it just seems like i'm just on autopilot on the first two dates.

Women rarely ever take the lead in spontaneity, and they'll get scared away if the guy tries to be spontaneous. Meeting people in person always lends better to spontaneity...so try to meet people in person.