3. How do I tell someone with BPD that they're acting shitty in a constructive way?

How do I tell someone with BPD that they're acting shitty in a constructive way?

As a sister, I do not have legal control over her children. Is it as easy as that? Just saying that she doesn't deserve custody and arranging for them to go? Would it really be in their benefit to take custody from their mother? My sister would never talk to me again. The whole point is trying to save a relationship and working out whether it's ever going to float. Thank you for your opinion, but I do not have BPD. I've never been violent or retaliated even when she's had her hands around my throat, I don't lash out when I'm in a bad mood, I'm not manipulative or paranoid, I don't have abandonment issues. I don't cheat or lie to get what I need. I have a lot of empathy. I don't have problems with keeping friends or hobbies. And the whole other host of problems that go with the disorder. I asked strangers on the internet on how best to deal with this shit because I wanted an inside opinion. You say it's one sided. I admitted that I'm not perfect. But to be honest I also stated that mine and my sisters relationship is incredibly one sided. I know enough to know that living with someone with BPD means their life and their problems usually become yours. They encapsulate. I don't act out of vengeance or anger. I never react to be honest because I'm terrified of the consequences, I don't want to lose my sister or the kids for another few years. And I don't think I'm the one that needs the counselling. Just a little advice on how best to approach this with her before I get to the point of crazy.

Your reply is kind of aggressive to be honest. Which I guess kind of goes with the territory.

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