Say "hey babe wan sum fuk".

No. I need help with this too I suppose but just don't really mess with it because I have gotten complacent and happy with what I already do, if I am being honest.

I am not ever overtly sexual at the absolute beginning of an interaction. I do a lot of day game. It doesn't seem socially proper to do so and I feel like it would start up the smut defense too early. What I usually do is just talk like a normal person and look for indicators of interest (IOI's) while chatting. Is there good attention on me, is she involved, standing on one leg, touching hair, is she accepting of small touches on her shoulder or side. If a few of these are there I will escalate, those IOIs are always in place first.

Too escalate though I usually do something fairly overt depending on the setting, could be taking her hand and pulling her somewhere with me, could 've grabbing her ass. I really feel that if you do not align to the setting you risk making her get defensive. Ie, I dont grab the girls Ass in front of people she knows, who know that shit doesn't know me.

Once I do something overt like that I just wait and see what the response is. If it was taken positively then we are all go. I will be overt about the fact that I want her, but the subtleness of conveying it to her depends on the setting. If it's in a sexualized space like a bar or club, then I do not worry about anything.I'll try to take her to the bathroom, haven't had it there yet, but from the bathroom deny they are usually willing to leave the space and isolate themselves with me. Just because they don't want it in a bathroom stall doesn't mean thumbprint want it, they just want a more isolated setting. If it is like a coffee shop sort of deal I will poke and pat her Ass to move her around and be overt like that, but at the same time subtle because it will be out of the line of sigh of people. Usually they don't let me finger them in a Starbucks or something, usually. But that is okay. Because we go back to one of our places and once their is isolation and that sort of contact has already been made, there are no hold ups.

I don't know, I am never right out of the gates lets fuck. Maybe it something I need to work on, but honestly it seems like being overt with your intent needs to be balanced with subtlety, at least to me.

Being normal first, then being overt about your intentions has more.... accuracy. To me. I'm either hot as shit, or what I do is fine, because there is a rarely a target that doesn't go all the way.

I am in a college town though too, so that might be a factor. Reputation is king. If I am overtly sexual too fast, I can just be denied and called thirsty if the girl is not in. Conversely, if the girl is into me and I am being too flamboyant with my intentions she is the smut that fucks the thirties and then at best it gets 're framed in such a way that I am her fuck boy toy so she can save face.

Best that no one knows except her and I. I stay discreet, but obvious of my intent, and go further each time it gets reciprocated, or accepted positively. But isolation and being discreet is big deal in my game.