Just commenting because I agree completely. While my husband and I routinely tell our toddler that we love him more than anything, we don’t tell each other that we love him more than the other. Honestly, you should always put yourself first (in a healthy way) and then your spouse and then your child. If you are actually taking care of yourself and your mental health and taking care of your spouse and your love and your marriage, then that gives your child the best possible life and future. They will have parents that model love and respect and self care (and seek out that in others when they start dating). They will have parents that work on their mental hang ups and trauma and it won’t be passed down. My husband is my partner for my entire life, it’s my most important relationship I’ll ever have. My son, hopefully (if this is what he wants), will leave, find love and start his own important partnership and will be respected and taken care of in that relationship because he now knows what he should and shouldn’t accept.