This isn't really a response to you but a response to the comments here. If OP were a guy you guys would sound a lot different. Her partner is coming to terms with their sexuality. Its a painful experience and its no ones fault but when a woman leaves her husband because she comes to terms with the fact that she's gay you guys celebrate her. When heart broken boyfriends and husbands come here for comfort you tell them to respect their partners wishes and care for themselves. I don't think this story is any different. I think this story is one of two people who were in love and then things changed for one of them. One of them came to terms with the fact that their sexuality didn't match the relationship and that to be happy it needed to end. It hurts the one who is left behind desperately but it doesn't make the partner who left evil or wrong or cruel. You don't call the lesbians who leave their husbands cruel lets not pretend the rules are different when you go in the other direction.