I went through the exact same thing. My dad cheated on my mother back when I was in middle school, and continued to chest on her through out the years. She was able to hold herself together until menopause hit as well, then she couldn't hold herself together as well. It got so bad to the point of her not just crying but she started hitting herself, and I'd have to pull her away and hold them down to get her to stop. For a few months I refused to leave my mother by herself from fear of her killing herself. She hadn't attempted to, but after her hitting herself I was thinking the worst.

Out of all my siblings, the only one that knew about my parents situation was me, my dad and them would make fun or poke at her about her menopause and being old, just brushing off her emotions with that excuse.

Your mother is getting help and talking about her feelings with a professional, and is following a prescription. She is on the right path and is obviously showing signs of wanting to get better. What also helped me and my mom was going outside and power walking, running and some sweating! She felt healthier, with more energy and that helped lift her spirits. I would talk to her all about my day, school, and work, and she loved hearing that stuff, it was something different than the normal bull she was getting from my dad, and she's a mom, seeing her kids happy and healthy make her feel passion. When she would lay in bed alone and depressed and not talking, I'd go and cuddle up with her. She didnt have to talk if she didn't want to, or even get up, but I'd let her know that she didn't have to go through it alone and I'd always be by her side.

Keeping her busy works as well. Getting back into old hobbies, learning new things, going out, and contacting old friends and family really help, especially if she lives far away from them.