OP look. People bring us this shit.. these socially limited, non-emotionally developed partnership life forms. Then they complain about them. Can you belive that? Okay, so now what? What are we supposed to do about your choice of a marriage partner and the loss of your special day? Nobody has a wand to just make it all better. You're going to have to take some responsibility for your part in this.

The guy was who he was when you married him. He is still that guy. The ceremony had some issues. They all do. You're going to decide to be happy, it is all within your tolerances. Conversely you can decide to burn this mf to the ground. Either way, the sun will still rise. We'll still need to eat, sleep, shower and shave.

But how do we know what you want, or what is acceptable to you when you haven't even clearly decided? We cannot decide this for you. You need quiet time with paper and pen. Write things down, figure out what you want, what you are doing with your life, what you can emotionally tolerate. What breaks the deal in a relationship? If you don't know what to write, just write down a bunch of questions in a Q & A form. Then answer them as specifically and honestly as possible, leaving nothing out.

Nobody here really wants to interfere with two people who love each other but who may have a few glitches. Are you those two people? It sounds like you may not be. Did you just make a really bad mistake? Or are there lots to the story you're leaving out? You don't have to tell us so much as to tell yourself. Internalize is.

And forget about the money, it's gone. It was given in love. Not with a performance clause. I'm sure your're family would rather have you happy and sane, and than living in a mistake. Even though they might flip out a little at first. That's another barrier you might need address sooner rather than later.

Make the decision you need to make, with complete honesty to yourself. Anything less is just prolonging the problem. Gather your safe people close, and do whatever it is you have to do. You'll find the answer to this in taking an action. The answer is always to take an honest action.