Thank you for your response, and understanding. I contemplated leaving the numbers out of the post, as they distract from the real issue - sexual disparity/incompatibility (if I had said we had sex once every couple months, I’m sure people’s responses would have been far different). People are all different, and for me personally, intimacy including sex is my love language, and simply put my needs are greater than twice a week to feel loved and wanted, good about myself etc. I can’t help that. Suggestions like “get a hobby” lack insight and understanding.
Nor am I entitled. I don’t think my wife owes me sex. I don’t pressure her to have sex when she does not want to (discussing the gap between our libidos, in a respectful discussion outside of the bedroom as well as in therapy, to try to find ways to close the gap is not pressuring her).
People also seemed to make all sorts of inaccurate assumptions - like that I don’t contribute to household chores, don’t nurture my wife’s needs, etc. - which I suppose I can understand, as I boiled my post down to a singular issue in my marriage, and didn’t mention anything else. But they are flat out wrong. I can say with 100% certainty that my wife would never say that I didn’t contribute equally to our household, raising our daughter, etc., or that I didn’t make her needs a priority. Those have never been, and never will be, an issue in our marriage.
Anyway, I appreciate your insight and suggestions.