My ex was and it was awful. He actually described himself as a "mommy's boy" and I should have listened to him! I will never do it again.

I felt like I was thrust into this odd competition for my ex's attention by his mom because she was kind of jealous. I am assuming it's jealousy because I can't fathom what else it could have been. If I was talking to my ex she would interrupt me to speak to him, if we were sitting together she would sit in between us, if we were standing for any reason she would stand in front of me and give him these huge cuddles that lasted way too long while cooing "who's my baby booooy?!".

She seemed to delight in making me uncomfortable, like if I was changing in my ex's room she would just walk into the room and have this weird grin on her face while I frantically moved to cover myself or dive in the bed so she wouldn't see me half naked. My ex felt guilty for telling her she couldn't come in, but I was like why feel guilty about having privacy? That's not right.

She was so needy as well, I noticed that whenever my ex went out on a date with me or came to visit me (he lived with his parents, I didn't) she would blow up his phone. About petty shit. If she couldn't get hold of him she started to blow up my phone instead - frantically messaging to tell me to tell him to call her. I was like, fuck that I am not your slave, so I just ignored it but told my ex to handle her. If I was my ex I would have just sent one message "I am out with my girlfriend" and refused to answer anything else/put my phone on airplane mode.

My ex didn't seem to realize that she was doing these things on purpose and would say stuff like "she just doesn't realize". She's not an idiot, she knows exactly what she is doing, dude. She was purposefully trying to interrupt our relationship because she felt threatened. I mean, a girlfriend and a mother are not roles that should overlap but because of her, they did.

She did not prepare my ex appropriately for life without her waiting on him hand and foot. She did literally everything for him. I was really used to figuring out stuff on my own and dealing with my own messes from a pretty early age; my parents encouraged independence from like the age of 16 so I was pretty confident in my own abilities to figure stuff out. I rarely phoned my parents for help with anything, most of our interactions were just catching up on news and doing activities together. We haven't had a parent/child type of thing for a long time, it feels more like friendship now. My ex basically turned his focus on to me to help with stuff, he refused to learn how to do things and expected me to teach him or do it for him. When my attempts didn't work he'd get mad at me for it! I don't think he was ever encouraged or trusted to learn on his own and deal with problems so he was used to deferring problem solving to someone else. He was also very ungrateful so helping him with things was a huge chore. I tried to get him to problem solve but he would just kind of throw a tantrum about it, foot stamping and everything.

When he moved out this got worse, and his parents used to come over loads which was really stressful if I was there too. They did the same "barging in" crap, and also used to take away his laundry to do at their house! I told my ex to shut that shit down, it was fucking creepy, and they tried to argue with him over it lol. When I broke up with him she started posting passive aggressive shit all over facebook and I just deleted the lot of them. She kept messaging me about our break up and I was like wow talk about overstepping? I just replied "ok", lol.

Never again. I am too scarred emotionally for that shit.