Hi- I don't think so. I think she doesn't know how to interact with men so tries too hard to be 'one of the boys' which ends up being awkward. Female friends of mine from college say stuff like 'yea she's always been perfectly nice, but I've known her for 9 years and never had a real conversation with her.. she doesn't give you much to work with.' I really don't think she's on the spectrum bc this is relatively new behavior- I would say since Spring/Summer- can Asperger’s/Autism develop? She readily admits she doesn't 'let people in'.

I said this above, but I've seen her say things to other people just to bother them/get under their skin bc she's passively aggressively mad about something else (usually something she didn't say no to that she didn't actually have interest in, but can't assert herself)... These are completely intentioned snarky comments that she tries to pass off as innocent (she has commented on them later, so I know she know’s she’s making them). I also don't think she thinks that anyone dislikes her, no one does, its been uncomfortable recently for the core friend group but that’s about it.. Everyone is perfectly friendly to her, but her relationships w our friends outside the core group are definitely surface/she only sees them when she tags along w someone but thinks these are very close friends of hers. I think she's annoyed that we all have other friend groups and don't depend on her the way she does on us. If any of us couldn't find something to do on a Friday, there are plenty of people we could call. If we all decide we aren't doing anything on a Friday, she has no one else outside of the friend group to call.

I think most of this is her a) being insecure and b) being single. As I said this is recent behavior, I started dating my bf officially 6 mos ago, she's been single since right after college (dumped a great bf of 4yrs for a douche that had a girlfriend he obv never left/is now engaged to). In this time I ended one LTR (guy she's obsessed w talking about/thinks was her good friend), was single and happy and doing my thing and then met someone else (guy she thinks is her good friend). I think this has been miserable for her to watch, especially bc I wasn't upset being alone and she clearly is. If we go to a bar she will say 'let's go, there are no hot guys here.' A lot of the girls are single and we hang w each other to see each other, not pick up guys, which we also think ties into her desire to want to always be out & hate taco nights or watching movies on a friday- no eligible bachelors at a girl's night in. According to her online dating is for losers (said in front of her good HS friend, who online dates- later its 'maybe she'll realize she should stop being so pathetic and having such low self esteem since I made it clear only losers do that.') so I think she's truly expecting THE ONE to walk up to her in a dimly lit bar on a Saturday night.

I am speaking to her tn and will update afterward.