Mmmm I was a teenager when anal sex was proposed to me and I went along with it because…well, you all can guess why. I will say that that first time, it was with someone I truly cared about (and someone who is still in my life 25 years later, albeit in a different capacity). I have tried it exactly twice in my entire adult life since then and it has been an awful experience. It’s not my thing. If it’s not your thing, it’s not your thing, and that is OK. In my experience, it is painful, but more than that…it’s uncomfortable. There’s the pain but also the real fear that you will shit the bed, literally. Lube helps, I guess, but not as much as people give it credit for.

If you’re looking for advice, my advice is to never compromise yourself, ever. When you’re young, your girlfriends have no idea what they’re talking about and men will absolutely hone in on your insecurities. Be true to you. You know what you do and don’t want. If you ever feel like you want to explore further, do it on your terms in your time. You don’t owe anybody anything.